"I'd also add that if you want to have a good romantic relationship, it's important to maintain good friendships. Putting all of your emotional needs onto one person leads to all sorts of problems. It also distorts your epistemics."
Also friends are capable of criticizing you in a way that n…
"I'd also add that if you want to have a good romantic relationship, it's important to maintain good friendships. Putting all of your emotional needs onto one person leads to all sorts of problems. It also distorts your epistemics."
Also friends are capable of criticizing you in a way that no one else really can - see what happens to people become rich and famous and become surrounded by yes-men and yes-women instead of real friends that can call them out on their bullshit
Words of gold, definitely need to note that one down.
Venkatesh Rao has quotes similar to this: for someone to be helped on level X on Maslow's hierarchy, they must first be ready on level X+1. e.g. only people with self-esteem can be helped with love and belonging, only people who are sheltered in safety can fortify their physical health.
My twist on this into a new form: If you can't sympathize with people of varying opinion (15), even when you can collaborate with strangers (50 and 150), you do not deserve to have your own squad or a girlfriend (5 and 1.5).
a relevant comment someone wrote somewhere else:
"I'd also add that if you want to have a good romantic relationship, it's important to maintain good friendships. Putting all of your emotional needs onto one person leads to all sorts of problems. It also distorts your epistemics."
Also friends are capable of criticizing you in a way that no one else really can - see what happens to people become rich and famous and become surrounded by yes-men and yes-women instead of real friends that can call them out on their bullshit
Words of gold, definitely need to note that one down.
Venkatesh Rao has quotes similar to this: for someone to be helped on level X on Maslow's hierarchy, they must first be ready on level X+1. e.g. only people with self-esteem can be helped with love and belonging, only people who are sheltered in safety can fortify their physical health.
My twist on this into a new form: If you can't sympathize with people of varying opinion (15), even when you can collaborate with strangers (50 and 150), you do not deserve to have your own squad or a girlfriend (5 and 1.5).